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Men STILL don't get it!!

Hi y'all,

Honestly it's been a week...a looooong and difficult week and the past two days really topped it off and I am done. Just done. So today I did two things: I asked for a day off to just take care of myself and find my happy again AND I ran. Obviously. But today's run didn''t bring me what I needed. My mind didn't calm down and due to the sudden 180 the weather pulled I got even more mad.

What is wrong with you dudes??? It is simply NOT okay to comment on what a woman is wearing and/or how that makes her look according to you. Not EVER do you hear me? EVER!! Just as in never. Never ever under no circumstances are you allowed to tell a woman that:
Her clothes are daring / revealing . NEVER!!  Are you stupid all of you??? Seriously? Did nobody ever teach to just bite your tongue? Like...if you aint got nothing nice to say don't nothing at all (yeah the song)

Going out for a run in summer heat means I wear shorts and a tanktop. It does NOT mean I am venturing out to turn you lot on. It means it is hot outside and running in heat means you sweat  BUCKETS so wearing less clothes is the sensible thing to do. YOU are what is wrong! Sexualizing a woman because she shows skin is YOUR  problem. There is something very WRONG with YOU and I am so frekkishly DONE with men commenting on my body when I DID NOT ASK FOR YOUR OPINION.

If I wear a top with spaghettibands and it distracts you than why the hell am I the problem? DUDE seriously? YOU ARE! And NO I will not ever tell you I am sorry for putting an idea in your head because I never did! You had those thoughts and you are a preditor and you are what is wrong and you can't shame me into covering up because you are distracted and you think you're gonna ...do what exactly? Jump me because apparently my naked shoulders asked for it? Seriously dudes THINK... go back up to heaven and ask for brains because somehow you skipped that part of the assembly line.

I run in winter fully covered because my skin will crack if I don't and because it is cold in winter. In summer time I wear shorts and a tanktop because it is too darn hot to wear anything else. I am running and most of the time that means I am pushing myself to be better and do better. The last thing I could ever think about is all of the things you think of me when you whizzle or comment on my body. You are just a disgusting tragedy we encounter every time we go out and thát is the saddest truth of all. Men STILL don't get it.

It's frekking 2020 and we STILL need to talk about this. Not just in running but in all sorts of ways. We get dresscoded because MEN can't deal with a little skin. It is beyond sad. Even shoulders are too darn much...seriously dudes? Shoulders? And our legs in shorts....too distracting? Shame on YOU! Just really....teach your sons that women are more than objects of lust and teach yourself to just shut up!  It is YOU who thinks that way. We just go about our daily business and in this corona crazy world the 6ft rule right now is what saves us from your horrible comments simply because we are now eligible to pretend to not hear you and you are not allowed any closer by law. If one good thing comes off corona is that the social distancing laws saves us...in 2020 in this society. I am so angry and so sad.

Will this stop me from running? NO! Will I stop writing about running? NO! Will I stop voicing my disgust about this? Not ever. I will always advocate women rights and equality and the basic principle of this still is something even educated priviliged people who talk about this and say thay fight for this are disputing when they ask you to cover your skin because men might get the wrong impression. So no I will never bite my tongue and play good little girl to accomodate to men that feel uncomfortable when I speak my mind or dress the way I want to dress. I am a woman and I run and here's my advice to you: did you ever think about this...I run 26.2 miles FOR FUN. Just something to think about when you ever wanna speak your mind about the way I look ever again. Think about that!

That's it for now. Peace out
Until we read again, as always
Love Marlies

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